I can guarantee you, your date has probably spent just about as much time thinking about how the night is going to end as you have. If you’re on your first date, the good-night kiss is almost ritualistic; I’m sure you’ve already gamed out in your head the moment you’re standing on her porch (or sitting in the car in front of her apartment building or what-have you), you’re saying your good-byes and how you had a great time and want to do this again and you can feel your palms sweating as you’re not sure whether to go for the kiss or a hug, whether to go for the cheek or the lips or just to just damn the torpedoes and hope that you’re getting a good-night beej instead of a dry peck on the lips.But at the same time I still fizzed with the euphoria I'd revelled in the night before. I had returned to a strange land where I hadn't thought I belonged any more.A club to which I - a 45-year-old with a body battle-scarred by time and childbirth - thought my membership had expired. When you’re asking the question of “When do you kiss her”, you’re asking the wrong question.
You’re parsing her every word and body movement like it’s the Zapruder film and you’re trying to figure out where Waldo is in it and whether he was the shooter on the grassy knoll.There’s even a Facebook page you can “like” to fuel you with self-control to save that first peck.While each and every circumstance is different and I admire many who make that choice, I’m going to suggest that in most cases it’s not the best choice and can slowly grow into an unhealthy form of legalism and pride. Just a few months ago, I was counseling a young woman who’d made the choice to save her first kiss until her wedding day.You don't want to miss out on something that could end up being great, but you don't want to get too tangled up in something if there's no chemistry, right?You can't call it quits after a decent first date. If you really enjoyed chatting with him but just aren't sure it felt romantic, go out with him again.