However, at the end of the day, our main objective as believers when getting to know potential suitors should be to maintain God’s standard for holiness and godly relationships.As a result, here are a few ways you can establish godly relationships with the opposite sex and avoid the temptation to date in a worldly way. People lie about everything from their intentions to employment, education, and character.If we want our young people to be prepared for marriage these are the questions that we must ask: In answering these questions, we need to know the criteria by which the answers must be judged.Our culture finds it hard to make such judgements because the dating scene seems to be an expression of "teenagers in love" - and love is thought to be something that just happens, over which we have no control.Courtship may be defined as a mutual commitment made between a man and a woman to meet regularly for the purpose of knowing each other better and seeking God's will with the aim of marriage one day if it is His divine will.We should include here that there should be a clear understanding that if the courtship does not work out, both persons are to be mature enough to part as friends without resentment and with all due respect for each other's feelings.Dating is part of the lie of the enemy that is ensnaring our young people.The Bible tells us that all that has to do with love can and must be tested.
Be patient and wait for the seasons for life to naturally develop as God intends them to be.
The test is Rom - "true love does no harm to a neighbour and fulfills the law." So we must find a lawful way for our young people to fall in love and prepare for marriage. It is an established cultural norm to be followed without further question.
Most parents continue to allow dating because it is the way that they did things in their day, and they believe that they survived.
Let us discuss some practical concerns for a healthy date. It is hard to put an age limit on when to begin Christian courtship.
It is useful to follow the following criteria: · One who is mentally, spiritually and emotionally mature · Who recognize their gift for marriage (I Cor 7:7) or do not have the gift of celibacy, · Who is praying and seeking God's will for marriage · And is ready about commitment in a serious relationship .
You may think this article is about arranged marriages, well its not.